Saturday, July 07, 2007

7 days...

There are 7 days until the wedding! I can't believe it, it has come up so fast. And what I really can't believe is that today it was spung on me that M's ex-wife (D) will be staying in Temecula as well. Because she wants to be there to get B ready for the wedding. Not that there won't be TONS of family there to take care of it. My theory, she wants to be there so she can screw things up for me and M. I could not believe what I was hearing when B made the comment on wanting to take her dress home so her mom could figure out how to do her hair. When asked how that was going to happen, we were told that her mom was going to be down there anyway and wanted to get her for a couple of hours. She wants to get her so she can get B all worked up and upset right before the wedding.


What's worse...M is going to let her get away with it. Because even if he tells her we don't want her anywhere near the wedding, she is going to fight to do it and he will give in to her, because he doesn't want to deal with her. It kills me.

I will never bond with this child because of her mother. Her mother doesn't want B to like me. She doesn't want B to get over the divorce, she wants to create a codependent disfunctional child. And there isn't anything I can do about and nothing M will do.


OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

That is a real shame...! It is too bad he doesn't get that his NOT taking a stand about it is not good for his future with his about to be wife, and, his child.
I hope you are able to comvice him this is a mistake...

Exciting that your wedding is in seven days!

Anonymous said...

Oh wow, I am so sorry to hear about this. This is the last thing you need to be dealing with right now.

Sometimes the only way we can deal with situations beyond our control -- is simply to adjust our expectations. It sounds like you're kind of doing that already. Unfortunately this woman is probably going to be brainwashing her daughter for some time to come. What a shame... I just hope that when the big day comes that you'll be so insulated and protected by all of your family and friends, that you'll be spared any dramas.

Put on your imaginary teflon armor. This is a psychological trick that a therapist once told me. Just imagine that you are protected by teflon armor when you are faced with sticky situations, so to speak. If someone says or does something hurtful or antagonistic, you don't have to catch that ball and run with it. Just let it fly right on by. People will say and do whatever they will do -- and though it's annoying as hell, you can stay in control and not let them toy with you.

I haven't stopped by in a while, so I didn't realize your wedding was right around the corner. Congratulations and good luck! I truly hope this situation with the girl and her mother will sort itself out somehow... fingers crossed here.